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你好

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我是艾伦·斯特劳斯

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斯特劳斯医生

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-你是…
-坎迪丝

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对不起

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我是山姆的母亲

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这是你家吗

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山姆和玛丽分手后
就搬回来跟我住了

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-原来是这样
-他…

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你知道玛丽 是吗

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对不起 我不能说这个

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当然 我明白

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你知道我是谁？

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当然知道

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我喜欢你的书

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当他父亲离开时

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我开始看这些书

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算是激励自己

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《仙人掌与海市蜃楼》
是我最喜欢的作品之一

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我也让山姆看了 可是对他帮助不大

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所以我劝他尝试真正的心理治疗

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这不叫尝试真正的心理治疗

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当然

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我知道这有多糟糕

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我真的知道

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给我解开

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我没钥匙

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那…

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报警吧 我们一起帮助山姆

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请你理解一下

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我一点都不支持他这么做

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我和他不一样

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可我不能举报亲儿子

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你是他的母亲 你不能让他停下来吗

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他想停下来 我知道…

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坎迪丝 求你了

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我有孩子 一儿一女

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他们需要我 就像他需要你一样

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我知道这么做不对

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可你必须帮他

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他是我的宝贝

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你吃过越南河粉吗

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-吃过
-可你没吃过这样的

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我去拿碗

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山姆 等一下

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你不在的时候

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我听见楼上有人在走动

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我喊了几声

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叫那个人下来

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那个人下来了吗

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-所以你见过我母亲了
-是的

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我挺惊讶的 你明明说她死了

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对 我爸妈没有死

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那也是我骗你的

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对不起

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我不想接受心理治疗的原因之一是

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我知道你们三句话离不开母亲

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我的症结不在母亲身上

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我去拿碗

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我需要你帮我解开锁链

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锁着治疗师

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是没办法有效治疗的

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锁链在你腿上 又不在嘴上

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山姆 我对你构不成人身威胁

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你年轻力壮 而我呢

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我天天坐在椅子上

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如果我攻击你 结果会怎么样

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我一开始的设想就是把你拴在地上

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我明白 可我请你调整一下计划

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让我更有效地帮助你

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山姆 除非你解开锁链

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不然治疗绝对不会成功

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她通常不会下楼

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之前在我办公室的时候

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你告诉我 你父亲使用暴力的时候

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是你母亲照顾你的

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三句话离不开母亲

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这只是事情的一方面 山姆
但我们不能无视它

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你母亲说他走了

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你能跟我说说吗

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他离开了我们

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当时你多大？

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14岁

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你还记得什么吗

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他离开了我们

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所以他没再打我

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之后你有见过他吗

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这是你从小生活的房子吗

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是

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你还记得…

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他是在这个房间伤害你的吗

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是不是这个房间？

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是的

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你在这里 然后…

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他会命令我做事

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如果我不能在一秒之内行动的话…

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有时我都不知道
他是什么意思 我…他…

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我需要时间来思考 可是

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比如有一次

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他为厨房和浴室买了一大堆水泥浆

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价格很划算

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所以他订购了一吨 是用箱子运来的

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他朝我吼着说 “分开”

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尖叫着说 “分开”

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我不知道他是什么意思

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因为我从没听过那个词 因为他…

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他当时没有指着箱子

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然后他就扑过来了

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就像以前一样

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你说你母亲也遭受过暴力

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她是个好母亲

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她每天给我做三明治

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她负责洗衣服

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对一对母子来说 那种处境很可怕

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各位 请安静

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各位！

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各位！

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我有话要说

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各位 我有话要说

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我知道

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新郎的母亲有话要嘱咐

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这对新人

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女性不能唱歌的

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拉比 这是我儿子的婚礼

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大家好 我是以斯拉的妈妈

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你去哪

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我还是西奈教堂的唱诗班领唱

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跟我说说话 山姆

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我知道你对餐厅经理的恨意

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让你很煎熬

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你还有什么要告诉我的吗

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你应该帮我才对

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对于我们 我有个想法

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你母亲是一位了不起的女性

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她显然愿意做任何事情来帮你好起来

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帮你过上你想要的生活

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我觉得她现在也能帮上我们

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我们都是家庭体系的一部分

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你 我 每个人都是

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改变这些体系

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会给我们带来深远的影响
甚至到了你这个年龄也一样

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我在想 也许让你和你母亲

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同时参与心理治疗

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会对我们有益处

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她承受得够多了

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不需要把她卷入我们的治疗

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你能这么想 真的很善良

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而且我理解你为什么想保护她

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但我觉得你不必担心
她被卷进来的感受如何

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我觉得这对她也有益处

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山姆

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你不用一个人走完下一步

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有个人想要陪你一起走

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她不想让你一个人痛苦煎熬

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他一直是个暴力的人

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我们的关系一直很紧张

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-我觉得我和山姆…
-他是个混蛋

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就这么简单

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他是个糟糕的父亲 我和山姆…

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“糟糕”这个词太轻了

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我们都慢点说

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在这里 让每个人说完各自的话

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我们慢点说的时候

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每个人往往会想得更清楚

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有时候等一等

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人们说的话会有别于我们的预期

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我和山姆互相慰藉

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我是从我看过的一本书上学到的

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不是你的书

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那是一种慰藉

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你们一起面对过那一切

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现在也一样

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你们有深厚的情感纽带

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很感人

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-山姆
-嗯

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你爱你的母亲

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我觉得我们有办法帮你了

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你换个角度想一想
你能如何保护你母亲

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在你努力克制

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暴力的冲动时

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我想让你通过抵制冲动来保护你母亲

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把她从这种痛苦根源中解救出来

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你在心里告诉自己

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“我不会动手的
这样才能保护我的母亲”

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山姆 你愿意为我这么做吗

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好

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希腊千层面

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餐厅那个男人 我去检查的那家

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我今晚又去了

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我觉得有你在这里

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我可能不会有事

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我就只是看着他

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感觉如何？

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我拿到了我的食物

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他就在那里

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我坐在街对面的车上

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每一秒钟

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我都在脑海中想象杀他的场景

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你说有我在这里

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这是为了测试自己吗

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算是吧

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看来你做得不错

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我想让他看看…

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我想教他如何对待

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世界上的其他人

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我依然想那么做

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好

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谢谢

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其他人也是这样吗 那些被你…

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他们也做了某些

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让你想要教训他们的事情？

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是的

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他们都…我…

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他们每一个都死有余辜

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坎迪丝？

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坎迪丝 我们得谈谈

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住手

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